Men like taking charge in the bedroom, and when they can’t, things get downright frustrating. Men’s Health (Australian Edition) recently ran a story about four things that can cause trouble for men in the bedroom, and it felt like a great topic to tackle for our Men’s Health and Supplement blog.
A Closer Look at Problems Men Have in the Bedroom
Having a happy and healthy relationship often times means that a lot of sexual activity is taking place. When a sexual presence isn’t around, things can start to affect your daily life as your mind will wander into outer space and even start to look closely at other women.
Having a good sexual vibe with your partner is important, but if you are one who feels like you are in a drought, per say, know that you are far from being alone in this predicament! You may be suffering from a low self esteem, which could be leading to problems in the bedroom.
When you don’t have time for sex or masturbation, it can lead to a variety of feelings ranging from anger to depression. These can bring your mood away from an appetite for sexual activity.
Thanks to the good people at Men’s Health Australia, there are some tips to help improve your sex life by looking into what is currently happening in your situation.
Reasons Your Sex Life is Down and Out
The first action actually looks very fun:
Watch Porn With Your Partner
Watching pornography together seems like a great idea, but the article mentioned that this can have a negative effect and do quite the opposite, especially if this is something way out of the ordinary for you two. While some couples may actually benefit from it, it could lead to problems outside of the bedroom because it may create an unrealistic expectation. There is even a comment mentioning that it may lead to erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation! While we have cures for those, (click here), you’d rather avoid that!
Also know that us men will always be measured to whatever stud is on camera, which is unrealistic for some of us!
Being Addicted to Electronics
Oh wow, this just hurts reading! A smartphone, tablet, and even television can cause trouble! When we can’t put down our phones, it’s hard to get it on, am I right? When your partner is addicted to Instagram, Facebook, or Snapchat, the last thing you want them to be doing is monitoring that while you are attempting foreplay, but sadly, it happens! It also comes into play immediately after sex, where someone is so intrigued by social media that they immediately pick up their phone. It leads to a lot of feelings that we don’t deserve.
The solution here is to remove electronics from the bedroom. Sure, it’s nice having a television to fall asleep to for many of us, as well as a phone handy so we can handle the late night emails, but the best way to get the electronic woes out of your sex life is to shut them down during intimacy.
When you switch places during intercourse you can suffer from problems. I always figured that women liked to “feel it” different ways, but the study shows that the normally dominant partner switching places with the submissive one can trigger problems because it will make the other partner insecure.
When you feel out of place or uncomfortable, it can lead to bad sex. This will in turn lead into self-esteem issues so make sure that whatever you do during sex is mutually enjoyable and agreeable. If one person isn’t on board with a position change, talk about it. Fix it going forward so both people are stimulated and happy.
Low Self Esteem
This happens more often than you think. In general, a low self-esteem affects many facets of life, but in the bedroom it really can hurt. Feeling insecure and having low confidence will really make sex into a poor effort instead of something that is normally filled with excitement and joy. Low self esteem can be from a physical feeling about your body, your financial situation, or even relationship status, and it can and will meander into the bedroom. When you doubt yourself and feel bad about life, it’ll spill over into your partner’s mojo and take a toll on sexual activity.
In conclusion, there are many things that can impact our sex lives. Knowing what’s hurting us goes a long way towards finding a solution and resolving the problem. When you can control the issue, it’ll become a non-issue. Be honest with your relationship and open up to your partner and better sex will follow.